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asexual dating service

December 21st, 2010 (11:15 am)

A question: a friend of mine is asexual but would like to see about dating for companionship reasons. What would be a good spot for her to start looking, or asking, about such things as discussions or meet-ups? She'd especially love a good asexual or asexual-friendly dating service. She's straight, and really can't see herself in a relationship with another woman, so she'd be looking for an asexual guy. Some good tips for asexual online discussion/meet-up fora might be helpful, too. (I'm asking because 1) she's shy and 2) my flists contain multitudes.)

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Posted by: 09 f9 11 02 9d 74 e3 5b d8 41 56 c5 63 56 88 c0 (laura47)
Posted at: December 21st, 2010 10:30 am (UTC)

one of my friends speaks well of http://www.ace-book.net/

Posted by: ((Anonymous))
Posted at: December 21st, 2010 04:14 pm (UTC)

If the aim is asexual companionship ("asexual dating" strikes me as an oxymoron), the question arises whether the lady has any gay male friends with whom she could spend time enjoyably. As it happens, the Sundance Channel is currently running a documentary series, "Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys", which may be of interest for its exploration of that dynamic:



Posted by: David Hines (hradzka)
Posted at: December 21st, 2010 05:16 pm (UTC)

It's not as much of an oxymoron as you might think -- there are lots of degrees of asexuality, and plenty of asexual people form strong emotional or romantic attachments, even with folks who aren't asexual. There are people who are asexual and not interested in romance, but others are. Gay friends are great for the straight asexual girl, but unless they want to stay closeted you can't marry 'em.

Posted by: greyandgold (greyandgold)
Posted at: December 22nd, 2010 08:54 pm (UTC)

I've only had one asexual aquaintance (that I know of) and they found that the easiest way was finding social or hobbyist groups and being part of a local community rather than a dating service in particular.

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